Your Money Problem Might Not Be a Money Problem
Published on: 17/09/2026
We tend to treat money anxiety as a numbers problem. Sometimes the harder question is what those numbers have come to mean about who we are.
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We tend to treat money anxiety as a numbers problem. Sometimes the harder question is what those numbers have come to mean about who we are.

Jobs, qualifications and roles can give us a useful sense of who we are — until life changes. Aunty B offers another possibility: identity rooted in belonging, relationship, culture and the way we live, rather than what we have achieved.

We are very comfortable telling women to find meaningful work. We are less comfortable talking about what happens when meaningful work needs to make money.

Midlife health can feel like a choice between ignoring what is happening to your body and becoming obsessed with fixing it. There is another option: get curious.